I have this friend in office who I have my evening snacks with - daily - except in unavidable circumstances. We met and became friends during the TCS training in HYD. She is one of the few girls I know, who have the capacity of "Level Headed" thinking i.e. thinking without involving emotions - something very difficult for women due to their inherently higher emotional quotient (no offense meant - this higher EQ is what makes women better at relations than men). I think this is the quality that makes our conversations interesting. Otherwise, we are so different as personalities, it would be difficult for a third person to believe that we connect so well!
Well, the topics of our conversations vary from the routine office work to issues on the personal front to our philosophies of life. Today's topic was particularly interesting - although it lasted only for 10 minutes as we had to rush back to our respective desks. The reason our conversation switched to this topic was a phone call I got from a colleague. This guy is severely undecided over a particular matter - not important to mention here. The call just prompted me to ask the question - why do people make matters complicated for themselves? And her reply was very sound.
Well, the topics of our conversations vary from the routine office work to issues on the personal front to our philosophies of life. Today's topic was particularly interesting - although it lasted only for 10 minutes as we had to rush back to our respective desks. The reason our conversation switched to this topic was a phone call I got from a colleague. This guy is severely undecided over a particular matter - not important to mention here. The call just prompted me to ask the question - why do people make matters complicated for themselves? And her reply was very sound.
People just don't want to take any decisions. They do not want to take a decision only to think later that the other option would have been better. That's why they run from pole to post seeking opinions, hoping to meet the person who will take the decision for them. That way, you can at least blame the person who suggested the option in the event it does not work out for you. Smart thinking, eh! Is this the way to secure your life from all the uncertainities that surround it? No wonder, retail investors lose the maximum amount of money when the stock markets fall.
Of course, you can't deny the fact that life is full of uncertainties. But then it is your responsibility to secure and safeguard it against them, not the other guy's - because he is too engrossed in securing his life! So, it's quite likely that you will be doomed, should you decide to depend on the other guy (or guys for that matter). I feel, the best option every human being has is to decide the course of his life and then stand by the decision - come what may. This way - wherever you end - you can at least be at peace that the decisions were yours, the path - chosen by you. This way - I think - triumph will be sweeter and failure will not hurt. Because when you decide to take the ownership of your life, no failure remains capable enough to cause a degree of pain that will defy the sense of pride filled in your heart.
And once life is secured against the pain caused by the sense of helplessness, all that should remain is joy. Sheer joy. The joy of living - on your own terms. Do they tell anything different in "Art of Living"? I don't know and I don't care!
